Give'em what they want

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I have been Waking up, in somewhat of a upsetting feelings over thoughts I have regarding my ex-wife, and expressing the beliefs in abandonment that I have.
I woke today with the same feeling, and I finally decided to do it differently today.
I wanted to call her and try to express again, like I have been almost everyday. I am finally sane enough on this subject, that I know thats not the way to do it. So I turn to the one, I feel has been neglecting me, which is me and I asked myself if I really want to do this again. I realized in the question, my whole relationship with her has been the same. I feel something is being taken away, I fight for it, it continues to be taken, I get upset she does not care, It continues... I blow up, and hurt a wall.

Today is different because I am choosing before I get upset, not latter when I am all upset at what she is doing, and what I am loosing. I then turned to spirit as I herd him say, "I need do nothing: is healing" I told him, advisedly I get a bit caught up and drowned in the emotions. What is something practical, I can apply it in my life, and I see myself Blogging about "Give'em what they want" and I say the page filled with Give'em what they want Give'em what they want Give'em what they want. So here I am, and spirit will elaborate. But me being the sly little ego, said before I started typing, "What if I do give them what they want" thinking I am psychic, and know what is best for them. Spirits quick and swift reply "Give'em what they say they want".

I then saw myself marrying together, my sister and her new boyfriend. They did ask me and I said yes, but protested that they should wait, for there is no need to rush into a mess. But I realized as the spirit spoke, I am not here to judge and then try and "save" the world in what I "perceive" as their best intreats. The ego quickly judges, and wants to save my sister from another bad marriage, and for the kids. I would justify and say it is nothing against the guy, even if he is a perfect guy waiting should not be a problem, if he is.

Something about my sisters life has been reflecting my own regarding relationships. Her prier husband and her, separated nearly every time my ex and I were fighting, and talking about divorce. Then their divorce went through about the same time ours did. And now she is quickly tying herself to another guy, filling in her blank... as my ex is. My sisters husband, has been throwing a fit in the background on the phone, as I have, and something tells me, this need not be.

I remember I was so focused and vigilant for God, and now swimming in the shit I made for dinner last year. Its time to clean up the plate, and do it differently. We all know it has not been working the way I want to do it. So finally on this subject I am ready to, choose and act again differently.

Please, Spirit again could you teach me what I should do practically regarding the reactions in myself.
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As I made clear to you, Many could say do nothing, but this for you gives you "power" you blind yourself with, as you try and "make" the other do nothing. Remember again, that it is always your lesson, there is no one out there that needs to change their behavior, it is you. So I say again, Give them what they want. For you know it means nothing, you know that you do not perceive you own best interests, and you know that to give is to receive, and you know that all pain comes from resistance. These things you know, I will elaborate again for you.


First- you know it means nothing, it is very easy to forget everything you know, when you think it is something you learned. The life you live is a life you learned, to act and be, do and say what you do. It is easy also to think the way to God is learned, and try and put it all on top of what you learned in life. This is not the goal. You will know that you are trying to "learn" it, when it seems to not be there when you "need" it. This we know is not true. As you remembered last night with Brittany, "Life is a series of trials so you can remember who you are" She is very insightful on this subject. But who are you is the question, and where are you at that.

You know nearly everything outside of yourself, will teach you what you are not, this is why it is meaningless. Only the "loving" experiences are meaningful because they teach you what you are. They bring you to a place to remember. Of course you will go through a period of undoing, and "learning" everything Love is not, and those are the "trials". Shedding away your old beliefs, that have taught you what you are not. It becomes a "trial" because the resistance to loosing the belief is great, and all pain and suffering comes only from resistance.

So it is normal for the ego to say, "everything is teaching you." But listen not to this in the way you once believed. Everything is teaching you, what you are not, so you can look past then and see what you are. This is the only reason they have meaning. They do not have meaning when you can not see through them. So do not take the lesson and stack it on your shelf filled with them, the shelve is hiding the truth. A true lesson of God, takes things off the shelf so you can see.

Two- You know that you do not perceive you own best interests, this we have gotten into depth before. And I say again, You perceive not your own pest interest, because you see only what you have learned in the past. You desire this situation to be different then the once in the past, so you must do something different to bring about the different situation. There is one thing that you never have done, and this is nothing. You believe you must do something, so I tell you then give them what they want. But you continue to ask about different situations, and which once you could apply this to. Do not the judgment of the situation, do the forgiving of it, so you can be healed from it.

You see clearly that your past has repeated over the years, that you live and act the same as you did when you were five. This is a lesson you would learn from. See not that you can not change, but see past it and realize what the reaction is hiding from you. Do not act the same way you always have, act today the way you never have. It is in my defenselessness my safety lays because it is taking you the way of God, and not yours, your choice has been the way of the ego, and you can count on that choice being made again, IF you choose to do anything. Choose to do nothing, by giving them what they want.

There is no ways in the world where one way is better then the other way. They are both illusions, and both insane. Love does nothing, in support of the truth that is hidden behind the shelf of lessons. Love is continuously giving, because it perceives no needs, in it self. Give because you choose Love, Do nothing because you wish not to act on the past, and have again chosen Love.

Three- You know to Give is to receive, In the sense I spoke of above, to give your things, and actions, is to take them off your shelf that hides the truth, in turn you receive the truth, by giving what you hid it with. You could almost say that the shelf was covered with old "lessons of love" or old "ideas of love" and you give these ideas of love, so they hide no more the real Love behind them. of course I speak to you metaphorically and these actions of giving is all you know. But it is better to give "love", if you must give something.

To give regards to truth, to give what you "learned" of truth is the only thing you can give. It is "teaching what you would learn" that you do so for. The question is, what do I wish to learn. Well with the contexts of above, to give Love is to do nothing. To do nothing is forgiveness of the blocks. The Blocks being old belief systems we have learned. As you give this "love" you simply remove the blocks in yourself. Remember it is always my lesson, never about the others "growth" only about my healing.

Give your old ideas of love, so you may find the Love that is always given. Act as you see fit for this love to be given, tell you realize it is not the love you wish to give. Give the true Love, only when you find it. You will know if you found it for there will be nothing else. As you type, and read this you have not found real Love, because you think there is something else you can do, say or be, this is why you come to me for help, you think you where someplace else. We are one, you have never left, to "come to me for help" the fact that you do is the fact that you think there is other places, things to do, say and be. Not realizing there is only Love, so you must admit you hide from it.

Four- You know that all pain comes from resistance, Meaning if you experience Pain, hardship, sorrow, or struggle it is because you resist. Resist the situation Yes, but resisting the loss of your belief systems. What you believe you are, is a series of belief systems building you as you are. You are not these belief systems, or the beliefs that make them. What you are needs no belief, it simply is what it is. The ego is a belief about yourself, build with itself over itself. A belief that is so well hidden you do not have a clear idea what the belief is. Even as students of the course you say it is a belief in "separation". You may have experienced out side of this, and remember it, but every time you try and explain it, you forget it.

If you experience pain of emotional or physical, you must realize that "you do it to yourself" means, that you give yourself this pain, by fighting, or in other words, refusing to give up. Refusing to surrender, to others, and higher powers. The only reason you clash, or have problems with is because you are stubborn, and want it your way. When you do not even know what you want. So you fight even when you get it. Then run around upset and angry that what you thought you wanted did not give you satisfaction, so you take it out on something. This is not what you want, the pain, the resistance is not what you want.

So give up, in the easiest terms, surrender. In every "trial" is another chance to surrender, because you know you perceive not your own best interest, and finally you will do nothing, but give what others ask of you because you know it does not matter. You resist not doing it, or not doing it. Finally you stop caring about the world and let it go, you no longer cherish it and set yourself free. You finally be happy because nothing in the world can influence you. You have surrendered and given up to the true Love of God. Be this and Give up today.

You say you want to, but the ego has no clue how. It thinks giving up is death, or sitting around doing nothing. It is not, It is not resisting, all the options that come in front of you, because you know you do not perceive your best interest. So I clarify, if they ask, you say Yes, if the do, you say go a head. You walk even if you do not want to, because the ego is the only one that WANTS anything. Want no more, because you have. Seek no more because you are. Find no more because you will always be.







Scribed by Devan Byrne from www.WalkofLove.Org

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